Thoughts on the Metro – 10 Sept 2015

Now that I’m using the Metro again to get around I can’t help but use the time to sit in somewhat quiet, especially if I’m using my headphones, and ponder the great many questions about life.  This morning was nothing different, given I was half asleep and we got stuck in the tunnel on the East LA extension of the Gold Line.

With the upcoming LGBT Veteran Event I’m producing at Patriotic Hall, I have many things going on upstairs and have difficulty concentrating on anything for any extended period with out my mind drifting over to the planning and coordination of the event. If you have no clue what ever I’m referring to,  please visit and educate yourself.

Any who,  between thinking about if certain political leaders have confirmed attendance and where I will be placing the many service providers,  I took a moment to enjoy the scenery. And did I ever…. There was this stocky Latino standing across from me, and this guy was a looker. I found myself studying him,  the way he was dressed,  how his head was freshly shaved, the artwork and possible meaning behind his tatts, how he carried himself,  how he walked across the platform,  how he shifted his weight when standing. OK,  I’ll admit I was starring, but I tried not to make it overtly obvious that I was.  I tried to camflauge my stares by looking down at my phone.  And, I ask you what would you be doing in my shoes?

I bring this up cause I finally came to the realization that this is the “type” of guy that gets my attention and I find the most attractive.  I know, how cliche…  Listen up,  I have dated many “types” and races, even sexes… And no not just a typical man and woman,  I’ll let that fester for a min………… When I’m asked what is my “type” I always say,  I don’t have one and that I like all kinds of guys, but at times Latin guys get my attention most of all.

So,  this morning while being stuck in the tunnel I came to realize that I truly have a infatuation, you can say with Latinos. Not just any Latinos, I like the “type” of guy that looks unapproachable, but is a giant teddy bear,  the guy with a shaved head or a very tight fade,  dark brown skin and tattoos. Tattoos and modest body jewelry make any man extra attractive in my book. For the most part, it has to be tasteful and public friendly. Sometimes the gang tatts make me wanna sit on the guy’s face…  OMG, did that just come out? Sorry Mom, I know you’re probably reading this. I’m just being candid and honest. Hell, this my personal blog, and if you’re a new reader thanks for checking me out. Consider yourself warned that there will be times were I throw caution to the wind and let you have it!

Well there you have it,  that’s what I like,  and upon  reflection has been the “type” of guy I have dated or even been with the past few years…  If you find this type to be scary or is a trouble maker, that is not always the case.  I have found that every “type” has its problems, you have to be willing to give everyone at least a chance, you never know what may be right in front of you. I will close on this thought, my “type” of man has proven to have been the best provider and caretaker, and one hell of a lover! 😜

Words of Wisdom #5 – 20 Things to Remember If You Love a Person with ADD

Thanks to my buddy Juan for sharing this…

This is something to consider for dating someone with PTSD, as they also suffer from most of these. As a Combat Veteran with PTSD, I know first hand how hard it can be to be in a relationship with me. However, if you take the time to look past these problems then it can really be worth the time and effort. So today’s Words of Wisdom is to not judge a person based on their ability or in this case their disability.

People who have a mental disorder such as ADD, ADHD, PTSD, TBI and the list goes on have some social problems, and can be hard to love and/or get to know. Just take the time to scratch the surface and see who is beneath the mental disorder is someone who might just change your life. Who knows he or she might be the one, if you take the time to really get to know the person.

So read the article in the link below and share it with someone you know, knowledge is the key to success:

P.S. Who wants to go out, and get to know me?

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Words of Wisdom #4 – Trying (Official Music Video) feat. Lisa Be…

This video was sent to me this past weekend. I had to share it with all of you here. The video is titled, “Trying” by Mike Flanagan. I recommend that you all check out his YouTube Channel:

“Trying” is a very heartfelt message of two men that meet and fall madly in love with each other. They are of course not excempt from the challenges of having a relationship. We see in the video the struggles each partner faces in “trying” to make it work. The words of the chorus pretty much address one of the biggest problems we face in today’s world, …”I keep trying to love, someone who does know how to love…” Those words alone hit home for me in a big way, as my past relationships failed for that reason. At first I didn’t know what I wanted or how to give or receive love. Now that I believe I have a good grasp of what I want and am learning how to love myself and others its difficult for this one reason. I have so much love to give that the other person doesn’t know how to receive it, or I’m not giving enough love for the other person to feel loved.

The video shows two burly men meeting, falling in love, and then growing apart. It shows one of the men, thinking about the happy times they.shared such as being in the park with the dog, coming home to each other after a long day at work, and cuddling up on the couch with a pizza. I don’t know about you but that is something I want to someday have in stable healthy relationship. Let’s all put the drama of our lives aside and learn to love. With love, true love we will become a much happier community. A community where we can find our soul mate, and not have our hearts broken over and over. Just like the guy in the video, I know the pain of heartache. The feeling of losing someone you really love is a pain that lasts forever. It may over time fade, however once you allow someone into your heart they are there with you ti the end of time. I know in my heart there are a few good men and women, family and friends as well as men I considered to settle down with. I do have to say I been saving one certain spot for Mr. Right, just hope he comes along some day soon.

MRF – Trying (Official Music Video) feat. Lisa Be…:

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Sometimes you just got to.break from of all the stress and frustration we deal with in our day to day lives. I personally hear the words of this song and wish I was swinging from a chandelier or on a mountain top screaming to let it all out. Some people say screaming doesn’t do anything but hurt your throat. I believe if done right it can be a very stress relief. Hell, when things get bad for me I will sometimes scream into my pillow not to scare my neighbors or roommate.

So let the words wash over you. Sit back close your eyes and imagine yourself cutting loose just like the girl in the video, with not a care in the world.

Sia – Chandelier (Official Video):

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Words of Wisdom #3 by Karen Walker

Here is some Words of Wisdom by one of my role models growing up, the one and only Karen Walker. I still look up to her wisdom as a grown man. I’d love to grow up just like her some day.



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7 Sexy Things Guys Do Without Realizing It (Words of Wisdom #2)

I was browsing the internet today and stumbled upon this. BuzzFeed was able to complied a list of 7 things guys do that are really sexy without realizing it. I have to admit I do find myself paying more attention to a guy when he does these things. Men, take note of this wisdom & use wisely.

7 Sexy Things Guys Do Without Realizing It

  • Rolling Up Their Sleeves (As for me i find this very much a turn on, it shows off the guy’s forearms, and puts him in  relaxed semi-professional look.)
  • Scratching Their Beard (I find this a big turn on as I love a man with facial hair.)
  • The ‘Save The Last Dance’ Lean (This stance is one where the guy is focused on you in conversation, and can be a turn on as it allows you to see him in a relaxed state.)
  • Putting Their Thumb On Their Lip (I dunno what it is, but there is something about a man who uses oral sexual queues even if their unintentional.)
  • Bracing Against the Door Frame (This can be a big turn on as it shows off the guy’s upper-body. If the right guy where to do this when we are talking I would definitely get distracted, and might stare a bit as i find a defined upper-body a big turn on.)
  • Adjusting Their Watch & Tie (I haven’t found this to be distracting or a turn on, but from the example in the video I can see how it can be. What about you?)
  • Making Good Eye Contact (Above all, this is the sexiest thing a man can do. He can have the body of a god and be the sweetest guy, however if he can’t make good eye contact when talking to you he is a dud. I dunno about you but it means a lot when a guy looks you in the eye, shows dominance as well as many other qualities. I can get lost in a guy’s eyes for hours if you let me.)

Apple’s Words of Wisdom

Honey, sit yourself down and get ready for some of my wisdom. I hope you’re thrirsty for this T!

Recently I came in contact with a 10 year-old little girl, who was born with Down’s Syndrome. To safeguard her privacy let’s call her, June. June lives in South Central with her mom and two brothers. I came to know June through a friend that needed help. As y’all know when I come across someone who needs help, I try to do what I can. Especially for my family and friends. Those I consider friends are my adopted family, the family I chose, for them I would move mountains if I could. I would and have given my last dollar to help someone else. I believe if someone needs something like food or necessities they should not go without, and if I have the cash to spare I rather use it on someone who is need…

I met Jun’s family by dropping something off for my friend, and was moved to learn her story. She is in public school and is having trouble due to her disability. At home she has trouble cause the homework is in English and her mom only speaks Spanish. I have gone back several times to help June with her homework, an d wish the public school system would do more. The girl also has trouble speaking and took me awhile to understand her way of communicating which is mostly moans. She understands English and Spanish if you talk to her, but is having trouble ready and writing…

It is so sad that we are failing our children, especially those that really need the extra attention. My words of wisdom here is to treat children as they are our future, cause they are… They will adopt this messed up world, and when we are old they will be looking after us. If we don’t dedicate the right time and attention to these kids, what kinda message are we sending? 

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