Creating Change in my Community

Well, I have decided to take another step in advocating for homelessness in Los Angeles, and something became official this afternoon. As many of you know for the past year I have been working as an Adviser for the Lived Experience Advisory Group (LEAG) for the LA Homeless Services Authority (LAHSA), advising and making recommendations on the many programs and services provided by LAHSA in the City & County of LA’s efforts in ending homelessness. As of this afternoon, I am officially a candidate for the Service Planning Area 7 (Eastern Area) Representative for the LA Regional Homeless Advisory Council or RHAC. The RHAC (currently 58 seats) is comprised of the many Service Providers and Advocates that serve the homeless throughout LA County. LAHSA just emailed out the notice (it should be uploaded to the LAHSA website soon), and I’m honored to be listed. I’m the only Candidate to mention that I have first-hand experience with homelessness and have worked with the population since 2007 with emphasis on Veterans and LGBT members of the community; I am also the only one that is not in a management position for one of the many Service Providers throughout the CoC or the County.

I go up against the other two Candidates in a vote by my community members on Fri, 24 Aug during the SPA 7 Meeting at 9 am This meeting is also a Los Angeles Continuum of Care (CoC) Quarterly Community meeting, which are being held to provide opportunities for community stakeholders and service providers to share information and best practices, deliver important updates on program funding, grant opportunities, performance measurement and legislative and policy requirements.

If you want to read my Candidate Statement you can do so by going here: or by reading the pic below.

LAHSA listed only 3 of my endorsements, however I turned in 5. I want to express my heart-felt appreciation and say, “Thank You to all of them for seeing something in me and backing me in the endeavor.” They are Israel Velasco , HUD-VASH Supportive Service Coordinator at Volunteers of America Los Angeles & Long-Time Homeless Veteran Advocate; Maribel Marin, Executive Director of 211 LA County; Suzette Shaw, Long-Time Homeless Women Advocate & CoC Board Member; Kristine Stanley, Long-Time Homeless Veteran & Women Advocate; and Reba Stevens, Member of the RHAC and LEAG.

You can see the other two Candidate Statements by going here:

and here:

For more information about the RHAC & what LAHSA is doing visit:

2 Weeks Under The Texas Sun

I’m been meaning to post this for a month now, so I apologize for the delay. You’ll see why soon enough…

As many of y’all know, I made a recent trip home to visit family and friends in the Great State of Texas. I’d you’re new troop my lil corner of cyberspace, Welcome and Yes, I am originally from Texas. Not just Texas in general, but the part where they like to be called  South Texas. A lil history, grew up in a small town, then a population of a lil more than 21,000, with a family farm where I spent the majority of my life being about 15-20 mins out of town. We lived about a mile or 2 off the main highway and at least 10 mins to the nearest convenience store / gas station.

Ok now that you got a lil picture of my upbringing, I had originally planned to make a trip home for a family reunion over the 4th of July weekend,  A few months before I book my travel my mother informs me of a second reunion the following weekend.  So, I make the appropriate plans to stay in my hometown of Kingsville, TX from the 1st til the 17th. A llllllloooonnnng time since I haven’t made the trip home in nearly 3 years.  When I first moved to LA I tried to go home at least once a year, but for the past few years money has been really tight and simply couldn’t afford the trip. So ya, here I start to prepare myself for the boredom and not to mention the humid Texas summer heat. Well, a week or two after I booked the flight, and reserved my rental car, I get a call from mom to say that the second reunion was cancelled due to a tornado that came thru town. Needless to say I was mortified, first to hear about a tornado ripping thru my lil hometown, then the thought of my plans were now ruined. What was I going to do? Especially now that I had even more free time to steam under the Texas Sun in a town I had out grown many years ago.

I get on my phone and the fabulous social media websites we love such as Facebook, Skype and Google Chat and look up my old friends. I was relieved to be able to keep in touch over the years and with the help of my childhood friends plan to split the time between my hometown when a few trips into Corpus Christi and my previous home before LA, San Antonio. Corpus Christi is about 45 mins to and hour from mom’s house in Kingsville. (A lil side note, many know Corpus as the home of the famous Selena, or as the movie put it Selenas.) Living in LA that’s a normal daily commute for most, but back home people travel that far once a week or less. 
I’m in Corpus Christi / Kingsville reconnecting with family and friends I haven’t seen in years,  some since before I left to the Army, right after Highschool, while others I hadn’t seen in a few years, and some we stay in not so moderate communication. One thing I learned while home was mom still is seeing her “friend” and now lives with him and the guys father, has finally left being a slave for Wal-Mart, however recently became one for another giant corporation, McDonald’s. I’m sorry, but I simply am not happy about that, not one bit. She claims to be doing alright, but I’m worried beyond belief about her well-being.

Fast forward 10 days of spending it at mom’s house with her and the “roommates” and I’m off to spend the last week of my trip in San Antonio, catching up with a few long time friends from when I used to call the Alamo / River City home. I got to spend most of this time catching up with my besties Vanessa and Andres. Even talked briefly with Andres about the possibility of moving back home to TX some day. He even offered to let me stay on his ranch, just a few miles outside San Antonio, ’till I got established. One big perk is he also is a dog trainer, so I’ll have access to his pack of dogs which is a big plus since I loved spending time with them while he was at work. See my facebook page for their pictures.

The afternoon of the 17th, I started my travels back home to LA. On the plane, in the airport and for a few weeks I pondered this trip and evaluated it from nearly every angle I could think of. And I have come to the conclusion that I am going to have to return back to TX to help take care of mom. I really don’t have anything other than my volunteer work holding me here and I can still do that from there and commute every month or so for board meetings and events.  Definitely got to fulfill my obligations with LA Leather Pride.

So,  it’s official. I know what some of you are saying…  “Didn’t you say a few months ago that, LA is home and you will never leave.” Yes, that statement is still true and I do consider LA my second home. However, I am Momma’s baby boy, and I feel I have some business to take care of back home in Texas. When will this all happen? Not sure to say, but sometime within the next few months. One thing’s for sure I want to be home by the early part of 2017, at the latest. First, I have some obligations and responsibilities that I would like to complete and/or pass on to a capable person. At least during my tenure with the LA Leather Coalition, I will be commuting to LA to remain an active member of the Board and to remain active with the planning for LA Leather Pride. This will also allow me to keep some participation with other groups such as ONYX, the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence and AVER. I will of course be stepping down at the end of this year as President of the AVER’s Greater LA Chapter, only completing one year of the current term, sadly I feel it is only fair. The President is a extremely active role and I can’t do that from Texas, commuting or remotely. It wouldn’t be right, so sadly I informed their Board of my intentions to step down, effective Dec 31,2016. I’m wishing them well and will be a phone call away if they need my help, while they use this time to revitalize and restructure the group. I definitely don’t see them going away with my departure. LA has many LGBT Veterans and AVER is the only organization to represent them in the region, and currently the only active chapter on the West Coast. I’m not going to transfer to the Texas Chapter for AVER or the San Antonio Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence right away as I’m going to try and stay active from afar as long as possible. Eventually I will transfer to their respective local Chapters. 

So there you have it, my Two Weeks Under The Texas Sun has changed my life. You can say it is for the best, since I’m going to be closer to mom in this tough time. You can say it face me the fever. How long will this move be for? Not sure, could be for a few years to get mom in a comfortable place, or could be permanent. I’m leaving that to the universe. To be quite honest, I’m terrified. I know it will be some getting used to, especially since I’m accustomed to the luxuries and perks of living in a big metropolitan, like LA. But, I’m sure all will be fine and I’m get accustomed to living amongst gun toting Republicans in no time.

Now that children is something I’ll leave for another time. I grew up around guns however then have new “open carry” laws in Texas. Come back for story time, and we’ll discuss that topic there. Until next time, peace & love to you all!

LA Leather Pride 2016


Cover of the April 2016 Issue of The Fight Magazine, the Official Guide to LA Leather Pride 2016, Sponsored by Bud Light

In just a short few days, will be the Los Angeles Leather Pride Week’s official launch. What does this mean for LA? Well, let me fill you in on what’s happening behind the scenes to kick-off the largest leather gathering on the West Coast. Los Angeles Leather Pride is produced by the Los Angeles Leather Coalition (LALC) and celebrates the Mr. LA Leather Contest, a regional leather title, for the Greater LA Area. The LALC has member organizations (bars & clubs) from all over Los Angeles, Palm Springs, and Long Beach that come together to pull off this annual momentous series of events that highlight LA’s diverse more ‘adult’ side of the community.

This year, LA Leather Pride – “Bound” is spread out over 10 days! Yes! Here in LA we don’t do small things! While most cities celebrate their Mr. or Ms. Leather Contest over a weekend or a even a day, here in LA we celebrate the coveted Mr. LA Leather title over an entire week! This year in celebration of the accomplishments of the current Mr. LA Leather, Patrick Smith we added 3 pre-parties before the Official Kick Off. Shortly after wining the title last spring, Patrick went on to snatch the sash & title of International Mr. Leather 2015. It’s hard to keep up with him these days, but he is out there taking the titles to new heights, literally. He has traveled to far off lands where most of us only read about in the news, places where you can be killed for being “GAY”! This lil Canadian, turned Angeleno didn’t care about the warnings and used his title for good, visiting places such as Uganda, Egypt and the Ukraine. The LALC is so excited about the accomplishments of Patrick that they added a 3rd beneficiary to this year’s festivities, Sexual Minorities Uganda. To learn about all 3 of this year’s beneficiaries, click here. While you are out there strutting your stuff in your hottest leather couture, think about all the gabbies in Uganda that you are helping. I ask you, what other city celebrates Leather and the BDSM lifestyle on a global stage? LA, yes I said it! Los Angeles does and IS leading the way! Hoorah to LA, Patrick Smith and the LALC for all that is planned for this year’s LA Leather Pride Week 2016.

This year you will see some new titles floating around the town as well. 2016 brought us the first Ms. Bullet Leather (Tuesday Niles), Ms. LA leather (Goddess Moon) and LA Pup (Pup Zero) Contests. Another current LA title holder to be on the look our for is Ms. Sanctuary Leather 2016 Scarlett Sin. LA Leather Pride 2016 is also drawing in title holders and leather enthusiasts from all around the world. You don’t want to miss out on what we have going here! Visit & for all the juicy event details.

LA Leather Class of 2016 Left to Right: Jeffery Edman, Mr. Christopher Street West;
LA Leather Class of 2016
Left to Right: Jeffrey Erdman, Mr. Christopher St. West Leather 2016; Matthew Jensen, Mr. Regiment 2016; Joe Gregory, Mr. Sister Leather 2016; Kelly Bigelow, Mr. Pistons Leather 2016; Monty Freeman, Eagle LA Mr. Leather 2016; Jason Atkinson, Mr. Bullet Leather 2016; Eric Slayton, Mr. SoCal Leather 2016; Caleb Engen, Mr. Oil Can Harry 2016; Michael Morales, Mr. Sanctuary Leather 2016; David Cosio, Mr. LA Leather Bear 2016

Be sure to visit  to get your tickets & packages! They even labeled their Packages after the hanky code, how fun! Are you man/woman enough to flag Orange?

You can get the LA Leather Mobile App by visiting from your mobile device, its the only way to stay in the know and be ahead of the crowd on what’s happening.

LA Leather Pride 2017 – “Code:LA” is promising to will be even bigger with the addition of Ms. LA Leather to the roster of events, from 23 March – 2 April 2017. Mark your calendars and prepare for a game changer.

GLORY SNOW BOUND: LA Leather Pride 2016 Kick Off Party

snowbound The Official Kick-Off to LA Leather Pride is Snow Bound at Faultine on Easter Sunday, March 27, 2016. Yes, that’s right in true Hollywood style the Faultline and its staff will be transforming their parking lot into a winter wonderland. With imported snow, leathermen from around the world, the contests riding bitch-style on motorcycles, and more snow.

Location: Faultline, 4216 Melrose Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90029

Date & Time: Sun, 27 March 2016; 2:00p-7:00p

Cover: $10    Official Event
Also part of Orange & Gray Hanky Packages

Leather Rodeo – Country Dance Event

On Tuesday, get out on the dance floor and show us your two-step at the Leather Rodeo, hosted by Caleb Engen, Mr. Oil Can Harry’s Leather 2016 & Jeremy Ronceros, Former Mr. Oil Can Harry’s Leather. This is sure to be a fun filled night of laughs and tight pants, oh my!

Location: Oil Can Harry’s, 11502 Ventura Blvd, Studio City,CA 91604

Date & Time: Tues, 29 March 2016; 7:30p-11:30p

Cover: $8      Sponsored Event



vip eventWant to rub elbows with the who’s who of the leather community? Well, then you want to be at the Invite-Only VIP Cocktail Reception. This event will have all the Contestants, Judges, Sponsors, the LA 30, and the select few who purchase the Orange Hanky. Come have a cocktail in out intimate setting before it all goes down at the contest.

Location: Bullet Bar,10522 Burbank Blvd, North Hollywood, CA 91601

Date & Time: Wed, 30 March 2016; 5:00p-8:00p

Cover: N/A     Official Event
Can only gain entry with Orange Hanky Package

Hump Day Cinema – OUT! with director Jasun Mark

TitanMedia Presents

Director Jasun Mark (Former Eagle LA Leather & LA Leather 2016 Judge) will be in the house for hilarious commentary with Pup Don Mike (Mr. Sister Leather 2012).

$5 Cover benefits:
LB/OC Surf & Sun Softball League

Location: Pistons Bar, 2020 E Artesia Blvd,Long Beach CA 90805
Date & Time: Wed, 30 March 2016; 8:30p-11:30p

Cover: $5     Sponsored Event

Leather Reboot – Onyx Dance

The Men of ONYX have a long history of bringing the best dance parties to Leather Gatherings around the Country. The new ONYX SoCal/Southwest Chapter is joining that linage and will be bringing you some of LA’s hottest men for their first dance party. If their monthly beer bust at Eagle every 2nd Sunday is anything to gauge what they are capable, this sure is to be a night you definitely don’t want to miss.

Location: Precinct, 357 S Broadway Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90013

Date & Time: Wed, 30 March 2016; 9:00p-2:00a

Cover: $5     Sponsored Event

TIGHTENING BONDS: Official Meet & Greet & ROPE BURN: The Roast of Patrick Smith

roastThis is two events in one as things start to get serious. The Meet & Greet will be the place for the Contestants and the Key-Players are introduced to the World in a Cock-Tail Party before it all gets real with the Roast of Patrick Smith. Come out and have a few laughs as we get ready to crown a new Mr. LA Leather 2016.

Location: Precinct, 357 S Broadway Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90013

Date & Time: Wed, 30 March 2016; 9:00p-2:00a

Cover: $5     Official Event
Also part of Orange & Gray Hanky Packages



On Thursday March 31, we bring you the official rubber/Fetish gear party for Los Angeles Leather Pride 2016. You are bound to Rub1Out. This party will be a sexy slick event, and is expected to be a hot and kinky time. There will be no fundraising, no raffles, just a dark bar only lit in red, there will be hot go go boys in rubber, a DJ to spin some dark electronic music, and hot men everywhere. this is a event designed by Fetish lovers, and made for men to meet, hook up, and live their fetishes. Rubber, Neoprene, Latex, PVC, and hot gear encouraged! If you don’t have that stuff, come in a harness, or something that makes you feel sexy.

Location: Bullet Bar,10522 Burbank Blvd, North Hollywood, CA 91601

Date & Time: Thurs, 31 March 2016; 9:00p-Midnight

Cover: $5     Sponsored Event


assemblyCome out to Rough Trade Gear in Silver Lake on Friday the 1st for an evening of food, cocktails, fun and some of the hottest men in uniform to be found in the Southland! Wear your best uniform gear, and bring out some serious energy for a fantastic Friday night.

Strict Dress Code Enforced: Formal Dress or Full Dress; Military, Law Enforcement, Fire Prevention Utility or Dress Club; Leather Replica Uniform; Formal Leather.   Civilian Attire: Black Tie Optional, Coat & Tie. Since it’s a formal event, please no fatigues / combat or work uniforms.

Location: Rough Trade Gear, 3915 Sunset Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90029

Date & Time: Fri, 1 April 2016; 7:00p-9:00p

Cover: $25     Official Event
Also part of the the Orange Hanky Package


Join the guys from Dog Pound as they put on their awesome puppy party at The Bullet.

Leather Dog Pound is back as the Official Pup Play Party of Los Angeles Leather Pride 2016. During the week long LA Leather Pride celebration, theres only one place to get your ‘pups all riled up, and that’s the Bullet Bar, home of Dog Pound!

Hosted by L.A. Pup 2016, Pup Zero. Ashtray Kain and Dan Lovell, this April Fools Day will be one for the cats!

APRIL FOOLS! It’s still one for the pups, but we will be honoring our handlers. Because what is a pup with out a handler? Both roles are important, and both must be celebrated. So let’s celebrate our pride in those that hold our leashes!

Bring your boys.
Bring your leather.
Let’s f***ing play.

Commemorative Leather Dog Pound 2016 pins will be available!

Location: Bullet Bar,10522 Burbank Blvd, North Hollywood, CA 91601

Date & Time: Wed, 30 March 2016; 5:00p-8:00p

Cover: $5     Sponsored Event   

Cigar Social – Presented by Eagle LA & Maximus

Location: Eagle LA, 4219 Santa Monica Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90029

Date & Time: Fri, 1 April 2016; 9:00p-Midnight

Cover: Free     Sponsored Event






UNBOUND – by Nasty Kink Pigs & Avatar

UNBOUND – LA LEATHER PRIDE 2016 & Avatar LA Bring you: UNBOUND Fri Night, April 1st, 2016 • 9pm-3am Prepare for a night of Dark Beats & Dirty Men! DJ EUROSTEVE Live Performance by Aarin Asker Gear Code: Biker • Jock • Rubber • Leather • Sport • Skin • Puppy • Muscle Bear • Military Location: 333 Live 333 S. Boylston St Los Angeles, CA 90017 21+

Location: 333 Live, 333 S. Boylston St, Los Angeles, CA 90017

Date & Time: Fri, 1 April 2016; 9:00p-3:00a

Cover: $20-Advance / $25-Door     Sponsored Event

Demented Fools – Play Party by Kinklife & Avatar

Demented Fools – Presented by & Avatar LA Pansexual Party Fri April 1st – 9pm-3am LA’s Largest Play Space! Slings | Crosses | Fetish Demos


Location: Sanctuary LAX, 10914 S. La Cienega Blvd, Lennox, CA 90304

Date & Time: Fri, 1 April 2016; 9:00p-3:00a

Cover: $20-Advance / $25-Door     Sponsored Event


Our Friends from the desert – PSLOD – once again host a pre-contest beer bust. Relax, have a beer & a cigar and hang out with the hot men.

Location: Bullet Bar,10522 Burbank Blvd, North Hollywood, CA 91601

Date & Time: Sat, 2 April 2016; 1:00p-4:00p

Cover: $5     Sponsored Event   




Women of LAL Meet-Up

Are you wondering where all the women are at during LAL week? Are you thinking of attending the Mr. Los Angeles Leather Contest but are wondering how to connect with anyone other than the 2,000 men in attendance?

Ms. Los Angeles Leather is hosting a pre-contest meet-up downtown where you and your friends, dates, play partners, etc. can come socialize have a drink, or a bite to eat and meet other women, gender queer, and gender nonconforming folks prior to the contest.

If you are new, this is an excellent opportunity to meet your local titleholders, and other members of the community or just have fun with that person you’ve been chatting up on Grindr, Fet, FB or Tinder

Location: The Falls Lounge, 626 Spring St, Los Angeles, CA 90014

Date & Time: Sat, 2 April 2016; 4:00p-6:00p

Cover: N/A     Sponsored Event


The Main Event you have been ooozzziiinnggg with anticipation for! All 10 Contestants bare their souls and bodies for the LA Leather Judges to select the next Mr. LA Leather 2016. Who is your favorite(s)? Come cheer them on and witness LA History in the making. Then stay for Legion, both event for one ticket! LA’s thrifty like that!

Location: Globe Theater, 740 S Broadway, Los Angeles,CA90014

Date & Time: Sat, 2 April 2016; 6:00p-10:00p

Cover: $30-Advance / $40-Door     Official Event      Also part of Orange & Gray Hanky Packages


Brought to you by LA super-producers Hunter Fox & Justin David, LEGION brings you the hottest DJ’s & State-of-the-art Lighting to create one hot party.  If you like your dance floor filled with wall to wall sweaty guys in leather, than this is for you! And the best part, your ticket is good for BOTH the dance AND the Mr. LA Leather Contest before.

Location: Globe Theater, 740 S Broadway, Los Angeles,CA90014

Date & Time: Sat, 2 April 2016; 10:00p-3:00a

Cover: $30-Advance / $40-Door     Official Event
Also part of Orange & Gray Hanky Packages

Reflex – Leather Pride Afterhours

DJ SHANE STIEL spins Sat. Night (Sun. Morn) APRIL 3rd
Our 1 – Year Anniversary @ Los Globs
Leather Pride Weekend After Hours (After LEGION)
REFLEX Dancers & Dungeon Areas
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Los Globos Event Space | 3040 Sunset Blvd.
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Produced by the Reflex Team
BOOKINGS: HRM Jonathan Chang
LIGHTS: Sean Ward
TECH: “Tattoo” Chris Perry
PR: Benjamin Dubois
DOOR: Victor Hugo
FLOOR: Steward & Yar
VIDEO: Jeremy Beard
INK: Marky Make-UP
PICS: Iggy Lopez & Thuc Win

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REFLEX happens 1st & 3rd
Saturday of the Month.

Location: Los Globos, 3040 Sunset Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90026

Date & Time: Sun, 3 April 2016; 2:00a-8:00a

Cover: $15     Sponsored Event


The 4th Annual Off Sunset Festival will take place on Santa Monica Blvd from Hoover to Sunset in the heart of Silverlake on Sunday April 3.

Bands, vendors, food, beer

PARKING: Parking lots will be open for a fee near Commonwealth & Santa Monica Blvd.

GO METRO: The nearest Metro Station (Red Line) is at Vermont & Santa Monica Boulevard, just a 7 Minute walk to the Hoover & Santa Monica entrance gate.

Get your tickets in advance here for $15 and SAVE $5 off the price at the gate.

Get Tickets!

Location: Santa Monica Bvld in Silverlake,4200 Santa Monica Blvd, Los Angeles,CA90029

Date & Time: Sun, 3 April 2016; 11:00a-7:00p

Cover: $15-Advance / $20-Gate     Official Event
Also part of the Orange and Gray Hanky Packages

RELEASE – Closing Party for LA Leather Pride

Justin David Presents: Release – Closing Party for LA Leather Pride Weekend and THE OFF SUNST STREET FESTIVAL!

Music By–
Victor Rodriguez
Chris Bowen
Griffin White

Location: Los Globos, 3040 Sunset Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90026

Date & Time: Sun, 3 April 2016; 5:00p-2:00a

Cover: N/A

Thoughts on the Metro – 10 Sept 2015

Now that I’m using the Metro again to get around I can’t help but use the time to sit in somewhat quiet, especially if I’m using my headphones, and ponder the great many questions about life.  This morning was nothing different, given I was half asleep and we got stuck in the tunnel on the East LA extension of the Gold Line.

With the upcoming LGBT Veteran Event I’m producing at Patriotic Hall, I have many things going on upstairs and have difficulty concentrating on anything for any extended period with out my mind drifting over to the planning and coordination of the event. If you have no clue what ever I’m referring to,  please visit and educate yourself.

Any who,  between thinking about if certain political leaders have confirmed attendance and where I will be placing the many service providers,  I took a moment to enjoy the scenery. And did I ever…. There was this stocky Latino standing across from me, and this guy was a looker. I found myself studying him,  the way he was dressed,  how his head was freshly shaved, the artwork and possible meaning behind his tatts, how he carried himself,  how he walked across the platform,  how he shifted his weight when standing. OK,  I’ll admit I was starring, but I tried not to make it overtly obvious that I was.  I tried to camflauge my stares by looking down at my phone.  And, I ask you what would you be doing in my shoes?

I bring this up cause I finally came to the realization that this is the “type” of guy that gets my attention and I find the most attractive.  I know, how cliche…  Listen up,  I have dated many “types” and races, even sexes… And no not just a typical man and woman,  I’ll let that fester for a min………… When I’m asked what is my “type” I always say,  I don’t have one and that I like all kinds of guys, but at times Latin guys get my attention most of all.

So,  this morning while being stuck in the tunnel I came to realize that I truly have a infatuation, you can say with Latinos. Not just any Latinos, I like the “type” of guy that looks unapproachable, but is a giant teddy bear,  the guy with a shaved head or a very tight fade,  dark brown skin and tattoos. Tattoos and modest body jewelry make any man extra attractive in my book. For the most part, it has to be tasteful and public friendly. Sometimes the gang tatts make me wanna sit on the guy’s face…  OMG, did that just come out? Sorry Mom, I know you’re probably reading this. I’m just being candid and honest. Hell, this my personal blog, and if you’re a new reader thanks for checking me out. Consider yourself warned that there will be times were I throw caution to the wind and let you have it!

Well there you have it,  that’s what I like,  and upon  reflection has been the “type” of guy I have dated or even been with the past few years…  If you find this type to be scary or is a trouble maker, that is not always the case.  I have found that every “type” has its problems, you have to be willing to give everyone at least a chance, you never know what may be right in front of you. I will close on this thought, my “type” of man has proven to have been the best provider and caretaker, and one hell of a lover! 😜

When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens

For the past 6 months to a year, I have been taking time to concentrate on myself and get on a better path. 2014 was one hell of a year, I’m telling you the struggle was definitely real. 2014, marked 10 years since I was kicked out of the one job I truly loved. I was discharged under the former Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Policy for loving a man, right after being given a medal for going to war and fighting along side my brothers and sisters. Subconsciously the anniversary of getting kicked out of the Army for being gay was really hitting me hard, and for a long time I was cutting myself off and would stay in bed for weeks on end.  Not good, I know.. Trust me it was not a cute time…

I thought that 2015 would be off to a good start and it started off rough. For a few month my home life was not stable and in July I ended up becoming one of the many Homeless Veterans in LA County. Let me back track a lil… 

One great thing happened in March, I met a great guy.  For privacy let’s just call him, Pup. Pup and I had been friends for several years and on Easter went on our first date. We started dating and a month later we were out eating Tacos at La Estrella in Highland Park and he asked if I wanted to be his boyfriend. Of course I said yes.

Things with Pup were off to a fabulous start then about a month and half ago we hit a rough patch. I noticed he started spending more time with his friends and when we were spending time together we we weren’t as engaged with each other as we were.  This also happened right around the time I became homeless. One could say it was after the honeymoon stage while others would say we weren’t meant to be. I not sure what happened but I can tell you I still care deeply about Pup, hell I still love him. So, a week ago we were out having pie and I confronted him about this and was asking for a  little more attention, I wanted to feel loved. With becoming homeless and trying to figure out life in general I was feeling alone and defeated. Come to find out he claimed to be distant due to my PTSD, I was too reserved and closed off.  I have trouble with intimacy and letting anyone get to know me. I am working on it, however who ever wants to be with me has be willing to go with the ups and downs of living with a Combat Veteran. Gurrrrl, The struggle is real & the devil is a lie! I tell you it can be rough but if you work it out, it can be one of the best loving relationships you will ever have. 

Well we parted ways and it hit me really hard. I lost one of the only good things I had going for me. But you do what you can and roll with the punches. Well, a few days later my buddy the Muscle Cub and I started chatting again. Last year we had went out a few times and when my home life started to fall apart we parted ways but stayed in contact.

This weekend we both were talking and we both have lots of things we are working on and think it might be beneficial to work together and accomplish our life goals. He even asked if I’d be interested in setting down and us eventually become a married couple. I’m seriously considering it, I have been single way to long and would love to have someone to come home to after a long day at work.  It will be nice to share a bed & home with someone I care about, and cares about me. It will be nice to even live with a man that might be interested in starting a family some day, a few dogs, few fish, and even a lil clicking baby or two… You never know…

So there it is, I might be getting married to my best friend. All this right after starting a new job as a VA Contractor a few weeks ago and getting approved for the VA’s Section 8 Program last week. Things are starting to finally look up. It’s true what they say, “One Door Closes, Another Door Opens.”

That’s that, know it is alot to process, will keep y’all posted on how things unfold over next few months. It might be a Christmas wonderland wedding…

Apple’s Words of Wisdom

Honey, sit yourself down and get ready for some of my wisdom. I hope you’re thrirsty for this T!

Recently I came in contact with a 10 year-old little girl, who was born with Down’s Syndrome. To safeguard her privacy let’s call her, June. June lives in South Central with her mom and two brothers. I came to know June through a friend that needed help. As y’all know when I come across someone who needs help, I try to do what I can. Especially for my family and friends. Those I consider friends are my adopted family, the family I chose, for them I would move mountains if I could. I would and have given my last dollar to help someone else. I believe if someone needs something like food or necessities they should not go without, and if I have the cash to spare I rather use it on someone who is need…

I met Jun’s family by dropping something off for my friend, and was moved to learn her story. She is in public school and is having trouble due to her disability. At home she has trouble cause the homework is in English and her mom only speaks Spanish. I have gone back several times to help June with her homework, an d wish the public school system would do more. The girl also has trouble speaking and took me awhile to understand her way of communicating which is mostly moans. She understands English and Spanish if you talk to her, but is having trouble ready and writing…

It is so sad that we are failing our children, especially those that really need the extra attention. My words of wisdom here is to treat children as they are our future, cause they are… They will adopt this messed up world, and when we are old they will be looking after us. If we don’t dedicate the right time and attention to these kids, what kinda message are we sending? 

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Mr. Sister Mardi Gras 2011

This past Sat, the Los Angeles Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence celebrated Mardi Gras with their legendary Mr. Sister Leather Contest. This contest is a feeder contest for Mr. Los Angeles Leather, which holds their contest 25 & 26 March 2011 at the Henry David Hwang Theatre in Little Tokyo. If you want you can purchase your tickets here.The judges have been announced with the theme being “Fallen Angles” and will be emmcee’d by the one and only Pup Don. Click the picture below to visit the LA Leather site, and learn more.

The Mr. Sister Leather Contest has been a beneficial part of the Greater Los Angeles LGBT Community for several years now, and this year chose to benefit the Lifeworks Program at the LA Gay & Lesbian Center.

Pup Don was there as one of the judges, and the sultry Sister Gunza Blazin of the Order of the Flaming Sugarbakers in Atlanta, GA was gracious enough to come down and be one of the judges for the Mr. Sister Leather 2011 Contest. The LA Sisters were also visited by Sister Ida Knows and Sister Iona Dubble-Wyde of The San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence – Asylum of the Tortured Heart, who made the long 2 hour trip to LA for the blessed event. After the Sisters put the 3 contestents thru various stages of public humiliation and parading like the leather whores they really are, the Sisters crowned James Stuart as the Mr. Sister Leather 2011. James will have the pleasure of joining oother hott leather men from the Greater Los Angeles Area to compete in the LA Leather Contest which is a feeder contesdt for the International Mr Leather. James is the proud supporter of the LA Sisters, and is married to Gaurd Mardi Gras also of the LA Sisters. Below you will find some faboulsness that happened at the festively glittering event…

The LA Sisters will be at it again finishing up the Mardi Gras Celebration at the LA Eagle in Silverlake, CA as they have the Mr. Sister Victory Party/Beads of Remembrance Finale/Eagle’s Mardi Gras Celebration this Tues 3/8/2011 starting at 8:00 PM. Come get your Mardi Gar on with some fabulous Nuns, and Leather Men.

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